I am (fill in the blank).
How did you fill that sentence in? “I am living a happy life. I am a positive person. I am very creative. I am healthy.” Or did you go with the old stand-bys? “I am ugly. I am tired. I am sick. I am broke.” If you chose the more negative wording to complete that sentence, repeat it again and this time consciously take note at how you feel physically, mentally and emotionally when you are speaking those words, whether in your head or out loud. Remember that feeling. Now, come up with a word that is the complete positive opposite. “I am beautiful. I am full of energy. I am healthy. I am prosperous.” Say the positive version one more time, and this time, again take note at how you feel when you say those words.
For some people the thought of saying a positive affirmation gives them the heebie-jeebies. Why is that? Why, when some of us are met face to face with the decision to say something positive about ourselves, we laugh at how ridiculous an idea that is. Or better yet, come up with a way to make fun of it or make fun of the person suggesting it. We would rather continue to shell out hateful things in our heads and make fun of people, than even consider thinking something positive or say a positive affirmation. Seems a little cruel to ourselves and those around us, when the overall goal is to change negative thinking into positive thinking, in order to better enjoy their life.
So what are they anyways? What is this strange thing, affirmation? Think of an affirmation as a seed. There are negative seeds and positive seeds. When you plant one of these seeds or someone else does, and then you decide to water it, it grows. Depending on which seed you chose to water, depends on which affirmation grows. If you water the self-sabotaging seed, it grows and creates more self-sabotaging affirmations; “I hate myself. I am so stupid. I will never accomplish anything.” If you decided to water the positive seed, it grows more positive affirmations; “I will learn how to do this. I will be successful and reach my goals.” Have you ever been around someone who was in a bad mood or constantly negative? You are in a good mood before you get around them, but after some time, you find yourself not so happy anymore. That’s how a person’s attitude and thoughts can affect another person. Think about how your attitude and thoughts affects you, mentally, emotionally and physically. Seems like a reasonable thing that makes sense, don’t you think.
So why do some people avoid positive affirmations and positive thinking like the plaque? Remember that when something is not done in our everyday life, it’s something we’ve never tried or experienced, it will seem strange and unfamiliar. Something is weird because it’s not a normal everyday thing in your life; it’s different. But different doesn’t make it wrong. Think about someone who has never ridden a pedal bike. They were never taught how to ride a bike and now at the age of 38 the decision to ride a bike seems like a foreign concept. “Why do I need to ride a bike? I have gone 38 years never riding a bike, why learn now?” But someone, a close friend or significant other, finally convinces them to get on a bike. @&#%! *@&$! Expletives come rolling out their mouth as they take their first tumble. “Nope it’s not for me. I don’t like it. It makes me feel uncomfortable. Not doing it. Riding a bike is not in my genes.”
Let’s rewind time for this person and go back to when they were a little kid. We are going to change their history for a moment and this time around they get the chance to learn how to ride a bike at a young age. Again, they fall on their first try, but instead of giving up they think about that moment before they fell, where they were happy and having fun. They didn’t think about being embarrassed, there wasn’t anyone laughing at them, but instead they were being encouraged to get back on the bike and keep trying. And that is exactly what they did, because they wanted to be in that fun and exciting moment again. In no time at all, they are riding down to the end of the block without a single fall. And you guessed it, huge smile and having the time of their life.
That bike is positive affirmations, and the reason they seem so strange to some of us, is because we are the person who never road a bike for 38 years. It’s not a norm, and it’s not a norm for a lot of people which makes for a great domino effect. It has become that weird thing, and now we are worried what people will think; we’re worried about being made fun of. We also think because we’ve never done positive affirmations, that we don’t need them. But what if we do? What if we don’t know what we’re missing until we give it a chance. What if you get on that bike and not worry that it feels strange to do something different? What if you really try to learn and find that it changes your life. You’re happier because you’re having fun and it makes you feel good.
So the next time you come across a positive affirmation or someone suggesting you try a positive affirmation, instead of making fun of that person or the concept of it (because heaven forbid you think something positive….that’s such an awful thing to do, ya know) give it a chance. It just might change your life….for the positive. 🙂